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On Pesky Things like Assault and Rape Culture

Hoooboy the media has been in a tizzy lately! Which, ya know, it fucking should be. Women are talking and the world is responding, for better or for worse.

Talking about rape culture is hard. It should be hard. It's messy and complicated and traumatic and fucked up. On the one hand, I'm so fucking glad we're talking, because women have been pushed into silence for millennia and silence only furthers our continued oppression when it comes to our bodies, our success, our humanity.

And some of the men accused? I like those men! Aziz Ansari is one of my faves! This was my face reading Grace's story:

It's hard for me to think of that man as anything other than funny and harmless, but one woman does feel he harmed her. I don't know what to make of that, but it's important to talk about it, however shitty that talk is. But I swear to you now, if Tom Hanks turns out to have raped someone, I fucking quit!

So, yeah, it's hard to talk about it. It's difficult…

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